You’re too Lovely to let Negative Thoughts get to you.

25 Apr


“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” Shakespeare

The Overview of Negative Thoughts

Thoughts are like different packs of wolves. One pack for negative thoughts, another for supportive thoughts, another for creative thoughts, etc.  At first they are puppies, small and harmless, but these mind wolves feed on the number of times you think about them. The more you think about them, the more you feed them, the stronger they get.

Soon one pack of unruly terrors will have full control of your brain, affecting your decisions, relationships, and energy level.

BUT DON’T WORRY! There is hope! Through acknowledging you have these thoughts, being aware of them when they happen, and deciding to think in a different manner, habits can be formed that reduces the negative spiral.

What the bleep do we know is a great movie that explains about how our thoughts create mental path ways in our brains. If one continues to feed critical thoughts, their default setting will be set on criticism. It take patience and determination to improve our thoughts, but it is attainable and worth it!

Feed what serves you, acknowledge that not all your thoughts are your own, and send compassion and support to yourself during this journey.

Small Steps to Creating Better Thought Habits

Being conscious of something is the first step to change.

Often I find myself thinking about past conversations (good/bad/boring) I had with people. When I am able to notice this I refrain from beating myself up about what I was thinking and become curious. “Huh, funny I am thinking about that. What is something more interesting/positive I could think about?” or “Huh, odd that came up, what would give me presence, joy and gratitude right now?” This helps for thoughts I don’t care to have that don’t need a lot of problem solving to resolve.

By working on this, it leaves my  mind open for supportive and compassionate thoughts to enter, giving myself more time and energy.

Ask your Thoughts Questions

Another great resource can be found through Kate Byron who encourages us to ask four questions to ourselves when we notice a thought is bothering us.

1.) Is it True (Yes or no. If no, move to 3)

2.) Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.)

3.) How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?

4.) Who would you be without the thought?

It is important to be aware that by focusing on positive thoughts we are not A.) ignoring larger problems that need our attention to resolve or B.) beating ourselves up for thinking a negative thought.

When dealing with the mind, things are hard to define in the black and white, figure out what tools work for you to make your life more enjoyable.

Lastly Mary Hynes from Tapestry did a great interview with Daniel Smith has a great book out called “Monkey Mind: A Memoir on Anxiety.” Where he uses similar techniques to Kate Byron to ask yourself questions about if your thoughts are true, if they serve you, and how they can be improved.

Best of luck on your adventures and may you find the sun shining in your face even on cold windy days! 

One Response to “You’re too Lovely to let Negative Thoughts get to you.”


  1. 8 Tips to More Energy | Accidentally Witty - April 25, 2014

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